The world is truly strange. It’s full of mysteries. On one hand, there are people who have no friends. And on the other, there are those People who don’t value their friends’ friendship. These are some of the friends who may not even be worthy of being valued. Perhaps you too want to break up with those friends today. So, I’ll tell you how to break up with your friends. But these aren’t separate individuals. In fact, the same person can play all these roles. For example, you might be boring or irritating to someone. So, from their perspective, you’ve become the very friend you want to break up with.
Today, I’ll talk only from your perspective. A friend who was once special to you, but now, for some reason, you want to leave him/her. It’s not wrong to do so. Because living with someone you’re not attached to is just a formality. But I’d suggest that before you leave him, you should reconsider a few things. Because a special friendship, once broken, never gets rekindled. And even if it does, it won’t be the same. It will simply be a formality.
If you’re ready, let’s get started.
:- Here are some reasons why someone might want to break their friendship
These four reasons are as follows:
- You feel that he/she is wasting your time. Being with him/her is just passing time.
- The friendship is one-sided.
- You are leaving him/her because someone else said something to you.
- You are jealous of him/her or he/she is jealous of you
Any of these could be reasons. Ask your heart, and accept the one that’s true. Because often, we don’t want to accept the truth.
There could be many other reasons besides these. But today, I’ll only discuss these few.
He/she is just wasting (passing) your time :
This thought isn’t entirely wrong. Because it’s a matter of your life, and time is the most important factor in life. Everyone wants to build a career and become successful in their lifetime.
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Let’s get to the point. A friend who talks to you every day, either by text or phone. And you talk to them too. But what exactly are these conversations? They’re just a way to entertain the mind. While we’re talking to them, it feels good. But after a while, we overthink. “What am I doing? I’m just wasting my time.”
“If you’re struggling with this problem or overthinking like this, I’d suggest reading this short story of Jack and Harry. You’ll find answers to all your questions about the reason”.
STORY:
“This story dates back 400 years. Back when kings ruled the country. At that time, the common people could only work as laborers. But labor didn’t pay much, and it certainly didn’t bring any respect. There was only one respectable and lucrative job for a common man. And that was joining the king’s army.
At that time, just like you, two friends lived in a village in that kingdom. One was named Jack, and the other was named Harry. They were very good friends. So close that they spent the entire day together. Whatever labor work they did, they would do it together, and share the money they earned. But Harry never wanted to continue working as a laborer and live in poverty. He wanted to become rich. So he decided to join the king’s army. But securing a good position in the army wasn’t easy. To do so, he had to leave his village and go to a training camp in the city. And he decided to go.
Jack wanted to stop him, but he did not insist. Harry wasn’t breaking his friendship with jack either. He had planned to work hard for a few years and reach a good position. Then he would invite jack there, and the two friends would live a life of affluence. But he didn’t tell jack this because he didn’t want to give him hopes that would be shattered.
Harry came to city :
Harry arrived in the city and began training. After working very hard, he joined the army within a year. Gradually, seeing his excellent skills, the king’s minister gave him a high position. He gained immense wealth, prestige, and respect. In those days, he was doing whatever he wanted with his wealth. But for a while, something had been bothering him. He thought, “These people only respect my position, not my personality.” Thinking about this, he remembered his friend Jack. Who lived with him even in extreme poverty.
Harry started thinking that “Jack did not care about my wealth or respect. He simply loved my personality. “No matter how much money and servants I have here, no one appreciates me like my friend.” Then he decided to bring Jack from the village to the city the next day.
Harry gets ready to go back to the village:
In the morning, Harry dressed in his finest attire and set off for the village with his horse and soldiers. He wanted to show off his wealth and grandeur to Jack, so that he would appreciate it. And then he would bring him back to his city.
After a long journey, Harry arrived at Jack’s house. The house looked in terrible condition, as if it were not a house but a ruin. Harry went inside and was astonished. Some people there were under the influence of substances in Jack’s house. He quickly went to them and shouted at them, “What are you all doing in my friend’s house? Andwhere is my friend Jack?”
One of those men came to Harry and said, “Jack died a few years ago.”
After you left, he went to work as a laborer, but he didn’t work as hard because he wasn’t interested in it. That’s why no contractor gave him work. After that, he drank heavily and lay around for days, and then one night he died.”
Harry was stunned when he heard this. He left the house, told the soldiers to go back, and he himself left on foot. Harry is neither back in the village nor in the city.”
“All the characters and events in this story are fictional. This story is purely a work of fiction. It is not intended to offend anyone’s feelings.”
Moral:
This story teaches us that in life, it’s not about how rich or successful you are. What matters is how happy you are from within. Being successful doesn’t mean being rich. Yes, earning money is important. But even while earning money, you can still make some time for your friends and relatives. Money can’t buy time. No one knows how much time someone has. Therefore, our plans for years are futile. What matters most is how happy you are right now.
: So, if you enjoy having a friend, but also feel like time is being wasted, don’t end the friendship completely; instead, gradually reduce your time. Don’t leave your friend completely. And keep telling them why you’re seeing them less often.
Friendships don’t deepen by talking every day. If he also considers you a best friend, then even if you reduce your visits, he will still consider you a best friend.
If the friendship is one-sided :
This can be a very wise decision if you want to let go of a friend who you consider your best friend but He/she doesn’t even consider you his/her friend.
But if you are talking about a friend who doesn’t consider you as special as you think, then you should give him some time.
It may happen that the closer you try to get to him, the more he will consider you ordinary and will move away from you. A better way would be to start moving away from him in a superficial way. Because the thing that is farthest from a person is the thing that he values most and thinks about the most.
That is, if you’re wondering how to break up with a friend for this reason, there’s no need to do so. Everything will be fine with time.
But if you’re talking about your group of friends, where you’re constantly made fun of, then you might need to do something different. Honestly, I’ve experienced both roles. I was in a group where I was like the leader, and I was in a group where everyone made fun of me and laughed at me. That’s why I know it’s very painful. If you’re in this situation, you should leave such a group today. Because there’s a limit to tolerance. Even if you try to explain to them by talking to them, maybe one or two people will understand, but not all friends will agree after explaining.
If you’re getting irritated by their jokes every day, it’s best to leave that group. And it’s not like you’ll become lonely. The world is vast, and there’s no shortage of lonely people here. When two people meet alone, they become best friends.
Want to end the friendship because someone else said something to you :
If you want to break the friendship because of this. Then the first step you need to take is to go to your friend and tell him clearly what that third person said. You can hide the name of that third person if you want. But it is very important to tell the matter. Because misunderstandings can happen in friendship. And if these misunderstandings are not removed in time, then this small thing can spoil your friendship of many years forever. And once the friendship goes out of the heart, it will not come back. All that will come will be just a formality.
Who knows, the thing that’s become so big for you might not actually be anything at all, or it might be something completely different. So, go to your friend as soon as possible and talk to him. Everything will be alright.
You are jealous of him/her or he/she is jealous of you :
This is the reason that no one accepts. It is possible that your friend is jealous of you. But you never accept that you are jealous of your friend. You may be jealous of him or he may be jealous of you because of any special quality. Like he is very handsome, or he is rich, or he has some special quality which you do not have. If you cannot accept this, then obviously he too cannot consider himself jealous of anyone in his mind.
But if you are able to understand that he is directly jealous of some quality of yours or something good happening to you. And you feel bad about this. Then you should absolutely leave him. Because such a friend can never be your real friend.
You can use these ways to leave him/her :-
Not all in one day. Instead, first reduce your interactions with him. Whatever you do talk to him should be normal. Don’t show excessive interest or ignore him completely. Don’t call or text him directly. When he does talk, talk very little. Don’t think about him too much and focus on your work. Take a month or two so he doesn’t feel bad.
Being jealous isn’t a crime; it’s a human emotion. You’ve probably felt jealous of someone for a while at some point. It’s normal to feel jealous within limits. But if it’s too intense, you shouldn’t be with him. And as I said, there are many lonely people in this world. There are many people ready to be your true and good friends.
“This article on friendship and relationships is entirely fictional and from a personal perspective. The opinions expressed are the author’s own. This article is not intended to incite malice or hatred towards any individual. It is based solely on the author’s personal experiences and feelings.”